4. She keeps hoping that you will have changed, but you haven’t
Of course, on other days she might only be thinking about all the things about him that turned her off (e.g. he was too smothering and needy, he lacked confidence in himself around her and others, he didn’t know how to keep creating a relationship dynamic between them that would make her want to treat him well, be attentive, loving and affectionate towards him).
This causes her to think things like, “What was I thinking! Why did I ever unblock him? He’s all wrong for me.”
Naturally, this might leave a guy feeling confused and asking “Why does my ex girlfriend keep blocking and unblocking me?”
If he reacts in any of those ways, he will fail her test and prove to her that he’s not really the man she wants to be in a relationship with
In many cases, the answer to that question is: She’s not 100% sure if she should move on and find another guy, or if she should give him one more chance.
As a result, she keeps blocking and unblocking him in the hope that he will do something definitive to help her decide which way to go (e.g. he either behaves so badly that she loses so much respect for him that she never wants to talk to him again, or he re-attracts her in the ways that she wants so she gives him another chance).
A woman will sometimes break up with a guy because certain aspects of his thinking and behavior are turning her off (e.g. how he sees her as the leader of the relationship and is hoping for her to guide and support him through life, how he’s unable to pass her simple confidence tests, how he’s unsure of himself around her and other people).
She will then take steps to fully cut him out of her life so she can get over him and move on.
If he then contacts her and turns her off by behaving in unattractive ways (e.g. he’s too nervous and insecure around her, gives her too much power over him, is too nice and neutral with her), she then changes her mind again and starts thinking things like, “This was a mistake! (más…)